I stumbled upon the song “Thank You For Being My Dad” by Jon Barker (2006) while looking for another song on Youtube. I’m so glad for this accidental find, and that I took a listen to it, because it’s such a touching song, and because it’s how I feel toward my Dad. Those of you who know my life story are probably wondering, how so when your father abused you and abandoned you?
It is true that I wasn’t fortunate enough to have had an earthy father who loved me like this song writer’s dad loved him, and there was a time when songs like this would bring me tremendous sadness of an unfulfilled longing to be loved and cherished. It’s true that I would never be able to say the words in this song about my father. That deep longing to be loved made me vulnerable as I grew from a child into a young women and I got into a codependent relationship with a person who was abusive and controlling (but I couldn’t see it at the time). Long story short, that relationship left me so broken and wounded, I didn’t want to live anymore and tried to end my life. That was when God intervened, and my life began again with my new Dad.
It has been 27 years now, and I have come to know a God who loves me better than anyone on earth can. He found me broken and hopeless, and He adopted me into His family and gave me a home. He gave me security by showing me time and time again that I can never do anything to push Him away. He taught me much about life and love. He taught me to forgive, first myself and then others. He healed the wounds in my heart. All the sadness has been replaced with peace, and all my longing to be loved has been fulfilled. I have a hope for a new start each and everyday. I truly am a different person now than I was before this new life began. I am who I am today because of Him and His love.
As a mother, I am thankful for the healing my Dad has done in me, so I can parent my children from wholeness instead of brokenness. I hope I am modeling God’s gracious unconditional love to my children, and I hope that they too, will come to know God’s love as well as I do. Hopefully I have been able to give them a good foundation so that they won’t become as vulnerable to others’ manipulation as I once had been. And I am very thankful that my Dad has given my children a truly wonderful earthly father. I am very glad that my children will be able to wholeheartedly say the words of this song to their daddy.
Thank You For Being My Dad
Music & Lyrics by Jon Barker
(You can contact Jon Barker through his website http://www.songstostrikeachord.com/STSAC/Welcome.html)
A son rarely tells his Father
How he really feels,
A handshake or a pat on the back is all that he reveals,
I’d like to right that wrong,
Here in this little song.
Thank you for shaping my life,
Thank you for teaching me all you can,
You are no ordinary man,
You make me everything I am.
Thank you for taking the time,
Thank you for showing me the way,
And thank you for being there when I need you,
Thank you for every single day.
Now I’ve been blessed with a son of my own,
Got my own bedtime stories to tell,
If I can raise him half as well as you raised me,
Guess I’ll be doing pretty well.
Thank you for your guiding hand,
Thank you for making my dreams come true,
You’re an extraordinary man,
And I hope you’re as proud of me
As I am proud of you.
Thank you for giving me life,
Thank you for showing me good from bad.
I guess I’m only really trying to say,
Thank you for being my Dad.
Even though the years drift away,
I never took the time just to say,
‘I love you, and I always have,
And thank you for being my Dad.’
‘Thank you for being my Dad.’